God – Keeping Sexual Purity “Real” – PROVERBS 5 – [6]

God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin.  Then each of you will control his own body and live in holiness and honor…  –  1 Thessalonians 4:3-4

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15 Drink water from your own well—
    share your love ONLY with your wife.
16 Why spill the water of your springs in the streets,
    having sex with just anyone?
17 You should reserve it for yourselves.
    Never share it with strangers.

18 Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you.
    Rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 She is a loving deer, a graceful doe.
    Let her breasts satisfy you always.
    May you always be captivated by her love.
20 Why be captivated, my son, by an immoral woman,
    or fondle the breasts of a promiscuous woman?

Solomon doesn’t hold anything back in these next few verses of Proverbs 5.  Can you believe this is God giving us these intimate/detailed guidelines?

That’s our Creator.    Smiley-face-1600x1200-wallpaper-775678.jpg

He tells it like it is.  He keeps it real.  He knows our hearts, He knows all people, No one needs to tell him what mankind is really like. – John 2:24-25, He knows our weaknesses.  He warns us because He loves us and wants to protect us.

Although He doesn’t force us to choose His way, He gave people freewill. He doesn’t want us to feel hopeless and confused.                                                                                                                                                  confused

The promise God gave the Israelites, 3,000+ years ago, is true for us today, as well.  Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, (pleading, begging, my add) that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live!  –  Deuteronomy 30:19   

                           life or death    

What a powerful and hopeful verse!!

God wants us to be aware that our actions have consequences, both positive and negative.

  • Would I be a good parent if I didn’t tell my children that “doing” drugs is harmful to themselves and others?
  • Would I be a good parent if I told my children that having sex outside of marriage is nothing more than a “good” time, with no physical or emotional repercussions?
  • Would I be a “good” parent if I simply let the culture drive my children’s decisions, so they could experience “real life”?

If we, sinful people, know how to give good gifts (protection and warnings, my add) to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give good gifts to those who ask Him (who follow Him, my add).  –  Matthew 7:11

We might not want to believe this, but we’ve all experienced the fact that we can’t change other people.  Even if the advice, support, and guidance we’re giving them is right on target, some people would rather touch the fire to be sure it’s hot, rather than listening and heeding the advice of those who have already been burned.

                   burned hand

 As Solomon writes in the Book of Ecclesiastes, History merely repeats itself. It has all been done before. There’s nothing new under the sun. –  Ecclesiastes. 1:9

I urge and remind myself, and others –

DON’T just listen to God’s word.  DO what it says. Otherwise, you are only fooling yourselves.  –  James 1:22

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The Allure of “Sex” – PROVERBS 5 – Introduction (c) [3]

Can’t you see that the food you put into your body cannot defile you? Food doesn’t go into your heart, but only passes through the stomach and then goes into the sewer.  It is what comes from inside that defiles you.  For from within, out of a person’s heart, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, wickedness, deceit, lustful desires, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness.”  –  Mark 7:18-22

 

 

On the surface “sex”, as depicted in our culture, media, books, magazines, etc. may seem alluring, and without consequences.  In reality, it’s just an illusion.                                                                     See previous post – http://wp.me/p5nZpi-d8

GobletIllusion_500     A goblet?  Or two people looking at each other?

 

Illusion is defined by Merriam/Webster and Dictionary.com as –

  • something that is false or not real but that seems to be true or real
  • an incorrect idea : an idea that is based on something that is not true
  • something that deceives by producing a false or misleading impression of reality.

This is why I chose the word illusion, in regards to the culture’s, media’s, books’, magazine’s, etc. depiction of “sex”.  Their focus is on pleasure, happiness, excitement, freedom, etc., while neglecting to point out the emotional and physical repercussions of sexual relationships, outside the confines of marriage.

God created physical attraction between men and women, but He never intended for it to be used solely to fulfill our own selfish desires, http://wp.me/p5nZpi-cJ.

up                                                                                                                                                                     But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.  The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. – 1 Corinthians 7:1-4

Sexual intercourse is a beautiful gift God has given people for procreation (having children), and physical pleasure within a marriage covenant/commitment.  A beautiful gift, that Satan has distorted, causing people pain, humiliation, and regrets.

Because the sexual relationship, within the context of marriage, is so important, Paul warns in       1 Corinthians 7:5 – Do not deprive each other (your husband or wife) of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 

As we watch TV, movies, or read books we’re often shown explicit/graphic,”romance”, while leaving out the emotional and/or physical consequences of engaging in “casual sex”.

The Truth Is  —  Sexual immorality…

  • Tears families apart
  • Fractures a person’s ability to experience “true” love
  • Degrades human beings, turning them into objects
  • May lead to diseases
  • May result in unwanted children
  • Is against God’s law

Next post, we’ll begin to look at Proverbs 5.  Until then, ponder Solomon’s urgings in the first two verses of Proverbs Chapter 5, –                                                                                                                 My children, pay attention to my wisdom; listen carefully to my wise counsel.  THEN you will show discernment, and your lips will express what you’ve learned.

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Is “Sex” Glamorized in Our Culture? – PROVERBS 5 – Introduction (b) [2]

Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.  –  Hebrews 13:4

 

 

Many people may think that the Bible is just a book of rules,     Rules-ROH                        or a storybook for kids.       storybook for kids

Unfortunately, because of these, and other, misconceptions, people don’t think that the Bible pertains to them and the struggles that they face everyday, in the “real” world.

One of the greatest struggles people face today is sexual sin.  I believe people do realize that some of their sexual “choices” are wrong.  And do sense that their choices are not healthy emotionally or physically.  Yet, because our culture, media, etc. tends to glamorize “sex”, the “envelope” is continually being pushed, “My people have become lost sheep.  Their “shepherds” have led them astray and turned them loose in the mountains.  They have lost their way and cannot remember how to get back to the fold.” – Jeremiah 50:6

As a mom, I feel the pain and heartache God expresses for people, through the prophet Jeremiah. Unfortunately, people take what they believe is an “innocent taste”, while failing to realize the long-term implications of their choices.                                  

                   apple                      adam and eve

For example, from “puppy love” in the 70’s, on shows like the Brady Bunch                                         – Marcia Brady and Davy Jones

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            wolf                         50

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With these sexual “experiences/opportunities” becoming more and more common place, , it is easy for people, ourselves and our children, to be led further and further from God’s Ways. For those who guide these people are leading them astray; And those who are guided by them are brought to confusion. – Isaiah 9:16

God tells us, and I take this to heart

You MUST WARN each other every day, while it is still “today,” so that none of you will be deceived by sin and hardened against God (His ways, His guidance, His grace, His mercy, His protection, His love… – my addition) – Hebrews 3:13

On the surface our culture’s obsession with “sex” may seem alluring, in reality it’s all an illusion.

GobletIllusion_500     A goblet?  Or two people looking at each other?

 

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Love is in the Air!!! – PROVERBS 5 – Introduction (a) [1]

God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin. Then each of you will control his own body and live in holiness and honor— not in lustful passion like those who do not know God and His ways. – 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5

 

We are currently in the month of February.  A month often associated with Valentine’s Day. The day when sentiments of amor especial entre buenos amigos (special love between good friends) are exchanged,

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and intentions of “like” are bravely shared with another.     givingvalentine

And this year, on Valentine’s Day, the movie, “Fifty Shades of Grey”, will be released taking “like”, to a whole nother level.  From the innocence of exchanging valentine cards, to a young woman’s “innocence” stolen by lust and perversion.

Are both of these examples of love?  Is one “good”, and one “harmful”?  Does God, our Creator, have any thoughts on the subject of love?

We will be looking at Proverbs 5 for wisdom on the dangers of sexual immorality.  But before we do, let’s look at the way God defines “love” in the Bible.

 

“LOVE” IS DEFINED IN FOUR DIFFERENT WAYS IN THE BIBLE

  • STORGE  –  this type of love refers to natural, familial love, parents, children, and extended family members.
  • PHILOS  –  this is the type of love a person would have for a friend.                                          Philos is part of the words philosophy (“love of wisdom”) and philanthropy (“love of humanity”). It describes loving another person like they were your brother or sister.  Philos love can be a bit persnickety (a bit fussy).  It could be equated with the phrase, a “fair-weather friend” – A friend who is only a friend when circumstances are pleasant or profitable. But at the first sign of trouble, these “friends” take-off.  Since phileo love involves feelings of warmth and affection toward another person, we do not have phileo love toward our enemies. However, God commands us to have love for everyone.  This love is called agape love.
  • AGAPE  –  this is the type of love of God has for His son, Jesus, and all people.                       Agape is a sacrificial love.  Agape love is based on our behavior and actions.  It is act of our will, a choice we make. It is not based on how we feel towards another person/people.  Although positive feelings can follow after we show this kind of love to others.                                                                                                                                                              When we have agape love, we seek to put other’s well-being ahead of our own. Agape love is the love that God commanded all people to have towards all people.  Because of our sinful nature, this type of love does not come naturally to us.  This kind of love can only be given to us by God, For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with His love.  –  Romans 5:5
  • EROS  –  this type of love means to have a desire for or longing for.                                                   Eros is part of the word erotic.  It is referred to as erotic/selfish love, and is focused primarily on sensuality and self. Eros love is based on the “feelings” we have for another person. Eros is often the first stage of a romantic relationship, and is based on the physical traits.                                                                                                                                                                       Erotic love, in and of itself, is not sinful.  However, because erotic love focuses on sensuality and self, erotic love can quickly become porneia  –  the Greek word for “sexual immorality” (the root of our word pornography).  Porneia covers the gamut of sexual sin (adultery, fornication, homosexuality, bestiality, etc.)                                                                                                                                                              When eros love is shared between husband and wife, it can be a wonderful thing.  In fact, the Bible has an entire book about the blessings of erotic, sexual, love within marriage.  It can be found in the Song of Solomon, in the Old Testament.   Unfortunately, when eros takes place outside of marriage, it becomes distorted and sinful.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   The Bible calls this form of eros, sexual immorality, and warns us – flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.1 Corinthians 6:18  When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures… – Galatians 5:19

< The information on the four types of love was adapted from types of love.org and gotquestions.org >

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Looking For Love in All the Wrong Places…. PROVERBS 2:16-19 [4]

The LORD stands beside me like a great warrior.  aslan lion         Before him my persecutors will stumble. They cannot defeat me. – Jeremiah 20:11

 

16 Wisdom will save you from the immoral woman,
    from the seductive words of the promiscuous woman.
17 She has abandoned her husband
    and ignores the covenant she made before God.
18 Entering her house leads to death;
    it is the road to the grave.
19 The man who visits her is doomed.
    He will never reach the paths of life.

Verses 16-19 are talking about another temptation people often face.  The media glorifies it, and people get entangled in its enticement.  The temptation – sexual sin.

The song, ‘Looking for love in all the wrong places’, from the movie Urban Cowboy comes to mind when reading verses 16-19.  The lyrics to the chorus are:

I was lookin’ for love in all the wrong places
Lookin’ for love in too many places
Searchin’ her eyes, lookin’ for traces
Of what I’m dreamin’ of
Hoping to find a friend and a lover
I’ll bless the day I discover,
You – lookin’ for love.

urban-cowboy-21                          love lp

People tend to use sex in an attempt to fill “a hole”.  That hole, being a desire to love and be loved, as the lyrics above mention.

There is nothing wrong with having a desire for love.  In fact, it is God who gave us that desire.  Unfortunately, many times in our search for love we end up side-stepping God’s teaching and guidance.   We may find ourselves led astray by the ways and beliefs of our culture. Although we’ll find a ton of cultural support for our ungodly choices, the results may turn out to be anything but what we have hoped.

It is easy to get draw into sexual sin when led solely by feelings.  Often times people think that “I “feel” so happy, maybe if I sleep with ____, they’ll “feel” that same way about me.”  Or, “I have “needs”, and if God didn’t want me to fulfill them, He wouldn’t have given them to me.”  We’re reminded, however, in verses 18 and 19, that those who give into sexually immoral “feelings” are being led to death, not life.  They will be doomed, not blessed.

Remember God’s promise to us:

Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and He will give you everything you need. – Matthew 6:33